Wife Looking for Sex Addiction Treatment for Husband
Gina* contacted us looking for support resources after she caught her husband, Derek*, cheating. It wasn’t just like a one time thing; Gina believes it’s a compulsion. Derek is currently going to Sex Addiction meetings in Toronto and trying to do what he can for himself.
We recommended Gina to contact JACS and get more information about their support groups for affected family members and loved ones. We also suggested she consider seeking counselling. This was something we focused a lot on. Ideally, Gina should seek out a therapist that will work with her and Derek as a couple after she gets a few sessions to deal with her own mental health.
Because Derek does not also have a known substance issue, if Gina is looking for treatment she will need to find treatment programs that deal with behavioural or evidence-based practices. Some programs like this include: SCHC, Life-Science, Bellwood, and CAMH. Attending counselling is a good first start as it is a far more affordable option and treatment can always take place afterwards if necessary and recommended by their therapist.
Questions to ask potential therapists/counsellors:
What is the cost (per session, etc.)?
Do you do couples’ sessions?
Will you seen me on my own first then with my husband?
We suggested Gina let Derek continue attending Sex Addicts Anonymous. Here is a link to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous’ meeting schedule and locations in Toronto: http://www.slaa-ontario.org/
Here are two other support groups for sex and love addiction
A 12-Step fellowship that is inclusive to all sexual orientations and open to anyone with a desire to recover from sexual compulsion. SCA is a spiritual program that provides a safe environment for working on problems related to sexual compulsion and sexual sobriety.
If neither counselling nor meetings seems to resolve the issues between Gina and Derek, we asked her to call us for additional resources. Because Derek does not have apparent substance abuse issues, he will benefit most from a program that is evidence-based and is experienced in dealing with behavioural and process addictions. There are only a handful in Ontario and Canada that would be worth considering.
Resource groups for affected family members
#13 – 1118 Centre St. Thornhill, ON L4J 7R9 Phone: (905) 886-0350
Note: Assessment and outpatient services for men, women, youth, and families.
Here is also a list of “outpatient” options for Gina and Derek, which will provide mental health and addiction help mostly through OHIP contracted agencies:
RESOURCES FOR SEX ADDICTION
Here is a link to all the sex addiction resources for Canada (e.g. therapy, meetings, treatment programs): http://www.canadadrugrehab.ca/Sex-Addiction-Treatment.html
Here is a list of therapists from the link above practicing in the Toronto area:
Barrett, Michael F. Ph.D.
25 Harbord Street Toronto, ON Phone: (416) 978-3488 Note: ABS Certified Sex Educator
Campbell, Bonnie – BA, DCTP, CAPT
Spadina Therapy Centre 37 Spadina Road Toronto, ON M5R 2S9 Phone: (647) 977-5918 Note: has expertise in the treatment of unproductive behaviours like excessive drinking, drug abuse, eating disorders, or sexual addiction.
Golden, Judith – BSW, M.Ed., RSW
118 Eglinton Ave. W, Suite 210 Toronto, ON M4R 2G4 Phone: (416) 485-4073 Note: works in all areas of human sexuality: sexual dysfunction, low sexual desire, sexual orientation,childhood sexual abuse and sex addiction etc.
Hicks, Margaret – MFT, RSW
Hicks Counselling Services 120 Eglinton Avenue East, Suite 800 Toronto, ON M4P 1E2 Phone: (416) 822-9659 Email: email@example.com Note: Margaret has 15 years experience as a psychotherapist, registered social worker, and marriage & family therapist. Margaret works with individuals, couples, and families in the Yonge and Eglinton area of Toronto. Margaret is a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy with post-graduate training in intensive sex therapy, addiction assessment & counselling as well as certification in Cognitive-Behavioural Thereapy (CBT).
Keystone, Marianne – MSW, RSW, RMFT
3375 Yonge St., Suite 1 Toronto, ON M4N 2M6 Phone: (416) 922-1748
Killian, Kyle D. – Ph.D., RMFT
310 HNES Building 4700 Keele St. Toronto, ON M3J 1P3 Phone: (416) 736-2100 Note: works with individuals struggling with sexual difficulties, eating disorders, stress, anxiety, and anger issues.
Langford, Robert E. – MD, CM, DPH
398 Eglinton Ave. E – PH08 Toronto, ON M4P 3H8 Phone: (416) 483-8337 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Note: sex therapist and marital and relationship therapist for 30 years.
Lawson, Penny – ICADC, ICCS, CSAT II
106 Fenelon Dr. Toronto, ON M3A 3K6 Toll-free: (800)387-6198
Ledson, Jena – DCTP
Toronto, ON M4C 2L3 Phone: (416) 912-5480
Mares, Beth – B.A.
Beth Mares Clinical Counselling
604-600 Sherbourne Street or 294 Main Street Suite 403 Toronto, ON M4C 4X5 Phone: (416) 699-5515 Email: email@example.com Note: Sex addiction therapy and counselling for individuals and couples; infidelity, cybersex addictions, prostitutes, etc. marital problems, sexual obsessions and intrusive thoughts, co-addiction. I have studied at the School for Addiction Studies in Toronto. In private practice in Toronto since 1987.
Marsman, Joan C. – M.Sc.
151 Humbercrest Blvd. Toronto, ON M6S 4L5 Phone: (416) 766-8982
O’Reilly, Jessica – Ph.D.
Toronto, ON Phone: (416) 795-7169 E-Mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Note: Jessica is a sexologist and Ph.D. researcher who values sex as an essential element of relationships, culture, self-identity and health. Her primary goal is to provide sex-positive education that empowers clients to enjoy fulfilling, healthy and pleasurable sex lives.
Pitt, John, CSAT
145 Spadina Rd. Toronto, ON M5R 2T1 Phone: (416)928-0593
Note: John is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals.
59-A Claxton Blvd. Toronto, ON M6C 1L9 Phone: (416) 792-6512
Note: Nicole is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals.
CAYA Co-operative Ltd. #5 Beatrice St. Toronto, ON M6J 2T2 Phone: (416)358-4090
Sommers, Frank G. M.D.
360 Bloor St. West Ste. 406 Toronto, ON Phone: (416) 922-7335 Note: ABS Certified Sex Therapist
Trainor, Wendy S. – MSW
1201-372 Bay St. Toronto, ON M5H 2W9 Phone: (416) 204-0336 Toll-Free: 1(877) 903-3878 ext. 336
Note: Sexual concerns are most often treated in a couple context when people are in a commited relationship. Problems include low desire, performance anxiety, ejaculatory problems, sexual compulsivity,